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Practicing Self-Care and Yoga Helps Me to Be a Better Dad

I’m an Enneagram Type 2, which means I’m a giving person. I’ve been a giver since I was a little boy. Whatever my family or friends needed, I was right there to provide it. When I became a dad, I amped my giving side up. The kids became my top priority. I believed in order to be a good dad, I had to sacrifice every part of me to give them what they needed. Sleep, my body, my time, and my self-care were placed on the back burner. In fact, I don’t know if I ever really understood what self-care meant.

A couple of years ago, after many years of putting myself way down on the priority list, I hit rock bottom. I was depressed and anxious. If I was going to heal, I had to bump myself up on the list. That didn’t mean I had to remove people and things off the list. It meant that I was highlighted on the list.

I started out by carving out 10 minutes of my day to sit in a quiet mode. During that time, I would pray or meditate inside my room. It was a great start, but I found that even during the quiet moments, I was planning my day and not focusing on myself. And then I began running and documenting my running journey on Instagram. While running, I listened to music or a podcast and it helped clear my head as I paced one foot in front of the other.

Along with running as part of my new self-care routine, I also began dabbling with yoga. I looked up yoga videos on YouTube and tried my best to emulate what I saw. While on vacation, I took part in yoga classes. Those things gave me the foundation to turn off and tune out while stretching my body and listening to what my body was telling me. I try to do at least 30 minutes of yoga every day. When I do yoga, my kids know that it’s my time and I need to be left alone.

The time I give myself has helped me to be a better dad and a better person. In order to be a better parent, I needed to be away from my kids. I’ve been up front with my kids about what I need in order to be better there for them. After a run or quiet self-care time with yoga, I feel more present and my stress lessens. I’m more empathetic to those around me and grace is more easily given.

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Headspace meditation programs can help reduce stress, improve focus, increase compassion and decrease aggression; as found in this study. Compassionate parenting, radical self-care, and letting go of stressful moments and memories are incorporated into my life because of a dedication to self-care and mindfulness. That’s something all of us parents could use more of. Read here to sign up and learn more about how Dove Men+Care and Headspace can help you.

Disclaimer: I partnered with City Dads Group and Dove Men+Care for this post. The story, photos, and thoughts on self-care are my own.

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