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Thank You Oren: A Dad Blogger Remembers a Dad Blogger

“Thank you.”

What does a dad blogger do when another dad blogger passes away? Blog about it of course.

Oren MillerRight off the bat, I need to say I have no idea how this post is going to turn out. Often times I have an agenda and a method in writing a post. The beginning, middle, and end are already worked out in my mind before I type the first letter. This post, one that I figured would be written someday… I don’t know how to write. I might wander off subject or jump around. I might rattle on incoherently. But writing this post might be only for me. It might be for my dad blogger brothers. I don’t know, but here it goes.

 “Thank you.”

Last weekend I arrived in San Francisco to attend the Dad 2.0 Summit, a conference for dad bloggers. This year was extra special for me because I was speaking on a panel on working with brands and how to request payment, review opportunities, interviews, etc. But there was something missing from the event. Something that kept me from fully basking in the great time that is Dad 2.0. Oren Miller was not joining us. is a blog that Oren started in 2007. In 2014, he added a new dimension to his blog. He blogged about having stage 4 lung cancer. And he did so in a raw and honest way that left you with smiles and tears. After reading a post where he included instructions on how to approach his daughter while she plays, I emailed him and said that I wish we lived next door so our kids could play together. He responded, “There’s a house available at the end of the street.”

I first met Oren at a Dad 2.0 Summit in Houston 3 years ago. We stood next to one another as a bunch of dads were trying to figure out where to eat. We chatted with one another and decided to follow a group headed to a Mexican restaurant. We talked along the way and sat next to one another at the restaurant. I immediately felt like I had met someone that gets me. Something that most people felt when they met Oren. Oren and I were alike in a lot of ways. We could both be talkative at times, and at other times not say much at all. And we could both be nice and cynical at the same time. Our first conversation was a thing of beauty.

At the restaurant, he shared with me information about a new Facebook group that he had started. It was a closed group for Dad Bloggers. It would be a place where dads could share personal stories and thoughts as well as promote their work and learn from others. My blogging world changed dramatically after joining this group. Through this group, I was able to get jobs, learn about blogging, and become a better writer. But more importantly than all of those things, I came into a community of dads that genuinely care about one another. These dads that I have come to know and love have become good friends. There are guys within this group that I count on for more than SEO tips, analytics questions, and ways to get more sponsorships. I count on them to help me through this parenting journey. Within this group are dads of a variety of religions, races, sexual orientations, and parenting styles. There are over 1,000 members now.

“Thank you.”

As I walked around Dad 2.0 this year, I missed Oren. Many of us felt the same way. There were imprints of Oren everywhere; from dads we recognized through the Facebook page to his quotes which kicked off Dad 2.0. We toasted him as we drank and sent messages to him wishing him well and telling him that we missed him. It was also announced that a scholarship had been started in Oren’s honor to assist dad bloggers who would not be able to attend the conference without extra help.

Okay, I recognize that I am rambling on. Time to wrap it up.

Much like so many other dad bloggers, I owe a lot to Oren. My life has been impacted by the man. My heart breaks for his wife and children. They were given a special gift and it was taken away. We all need Orens in our life. Thankfully, I had one. As I read through so many comments and blog posts by other dad bloggers, it is obvious that everyone had a personal connection to him. I am amazed by that. He meant so much to so many. If only all of us could have that kind of impact. What an amazing and better world this would be if we all tried to be more like Oren.

“Thank you.”

The last message that I received from Oren said, “Thank you.” That was it. A few months ago we messaged back a forth a few times and he ended it with, “Thank you.” I didn’t respond back and we left it at that. I am the one who is thankful. Thankful to have sat next to this great guy at a Mexican restaurant. Thankful to have shared parenting advice with him. Thankful to be included with a great group of men.

Oren Miller is survived by his wife and two children… and over one thousand dad bloggers.

Thank you, Oren.


  1. Reblogged this on HarsH ReaLiTy and commented:
    Dad Bloggers unite! That was a great post and a wonderful tribute. Well done and I hope you don’t mind me sharing the post. -OM
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    1. OM, this man is the “godfather” of Dad Bloggers his community is the largest Man Therapy sight on the internet. It absolutely sucks that he is gone, our whole community is rocked.

      1. Interesting. I hadn’t heard of him or this group really… but you know me. I float alone on the water. Thanks for the info and I am glad I ran across this blog. 🙂

      2. Your humor and wit would fit right in (I’d give it a week or two there is a lot of grieving going on the site), but your a dad and you blog. You need to blow off steam about the wife, kids, or life you will find a willing listener. Oren’s one rule was “Don’t be a dick”

      3. Yes, it does suck that he is gone. He was able to do something great in his time here. He was able to unite many dads and creating something special.

  2. Underdaddy sent me an email a couple of weeks ago and asked me if I would share this story ( on my blog in my ‘Couples’ feature. It was such a beautiful story, so of course I would share it. I had no clue about the blogger Underdaddy was talking about until I started diving further into his blog. I’ve never met him. But the person you described was the person I saw when reading his wife’s post or reading posts in general on his blog. My thoughts are with his wife and the children. Thank you for this beautiful post.

  3. Reblogged this on A Momma's View and commented:
    A couple of weeks ago I posted this story on my blog. I remember being surprised about the fact that Underdaddy approached me about posting this story. But I am always up for a good love story and so I agreed and checked it out. Needless to say how much it touched me. It is such a beautiful love story… I wanted to read more about the man this woman described and headed over to the blog. The person I ‘met’ there was indeed the wonderful man described here.

    When I saw this post, I got very sad. I felt like I lost someone I knew, although I did not know Oren at all. But reading him made me feel like I did.

    My thoughts are with his wife and the children…

    1. There will be a lot more stories written about him by other dad bloggers. Each one will share a connection hey had with him.
      Thank you for commenting.

  4. Huh. I’m a dad, and, as of recently, a blogger, but I had no idea ‘Dad Blogger’ was a thing, let alone a thing with conventions. Thanks, Opinionated Man for bring this post to my attention, and OneGoodDad for writing it.

    1. Writing this helped me deal with a lot of emotions.

      As far as dad blogging goes, it is a thing. My 3 recommendations for dad bloggers would be to attend a Dad 2.0, join the Dad Bloggers Facebook page, and jump into a City Dads Group.

  5. A lovely tribute , we do indeed meet wonderful people on here and it must be so very sad to lose a fellow blogger that you have come to know . Sincere sympathy to you and all of Oren’s family and friends.

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